The Mother of all Problems

I was Wrong In my last blog I stated that I didnt believe my ex-wife was narcissistic, but I was wrong. It wasn't until I posted a link onto the reddit group,  raisedbynarcissists  that somebody put me straight. lituritu  said.. " It is possible that she is just toxic. But it is also possible that he just doesn't see her as narcissistic simply because he doesn't know what a narcissist is and how they behave. Most of the bullet points really point to the latter. I have to say though, this sounds very familiar to many of the experiences we share here with covert narcissism, all the way down to the "She thinks her brother has it easier" (aka. she is the best at suffering..). She was even treated poorly by her own narcissist mother, and I very much recognize even that horrible tension at the dinner table that he writes about. " It's true, I'd only considered the classical meaning inspired by the Greek mythological hunter who was in love wit

Introduction In my last post  I mentioned that my oldest son lives with me. It wasn't a difficult decision for him to make, because when he went home one day and she'd packed his bags for him and demanded he return his key. He'd wanted to be able to freely come and go between the family home and my house, but this was at-odds with his mum's insistence on me pre-agreeing with her whenever he visited. The more she pushed, the more he pushed back, and it soon reached the stage that they just started lying to each other. It's no great surprise that this just made things far worse, and so on January 4th he moved in with me. Playing Favourites I was my father's favoured son and I'd seen first hand what it did to my siblings. To this day there's a real animosity between my sister and my dad, so there was no way I'd want to pass that down to the next generation. Yet if you look at the way my ex-wife treated our first born, it shows all the signs of t

The Take-Over This blog has been abandoned by the original author because she just finds it too difficult to write about many of the things that have happened to her over the years. While this is a shame, I thought I might take over and write about my concerns. Before we start, I need to make it clear that I have no problems at all with my own mother. She's great, I'm very lucky to have always had somebody so supportive, intelligent and reasonable in all things. It's only later in life that I realise how special it is to have somebody like that for a mother. So which mother do I want to talk about? So What's it all About? It's my Ex-Wife,.. I'm glad to be rid of her, but my children have to cope with her on a daily basis. She has custody of my two youngest sons, and uses every means she can to keep a tight control on them, restricting my access to them and giving me no say in their upbringing. My oldest son (who was 16 when we split) now lives with me